HD: "Okay.... I would like to go to this concert on XX date in Tucsoon... I went ahead ahead and bought the tickets to have them. If we cannot figure out a way for me to go, I will do XXX (and lay out the plan). What I figure for the trip is XXX dollars (and give her an itemized list, plus 10 to 15% figured in on top, for anything you hadn't considered.) Total price for trip=$$$
Give that to her.
Then, as a means of paying for the trip, you will give up X dollars of your 'extra money' over how many months, at 3% interest (as you are such a selfish bastard) to pay for the trip. Savings money pays this or less.
ASK her to help you figure out financially how to pay for it, over time. If she keeps giving you grief, HD, she is hurt you didn't ask her to go with you... then... to which you say.... "I'm sorry I didn't ask you to go with me, but I know how you feel about having sex with me... and this is a weekend trip I'd want to have sex with you, I know it, so... knowing how you feel about it.... I figured I'd just go on my own... and give you "your" time."
