Thanks SolidMechanic! I kind of thought that might be the response I'd get. She won't work on the marriage and she says it's over and wants to proceed with the divorce. I don't want it, but I also don't want it to be any harder on her or on me than it already is. I've come to learn that it's not all my fault, but I also feel responsible too. I want her to be happy and don't want to cause her any more pain, but I don't want to divorce her. If I fight it, it'll just hurt us both more.
I don't want it to be over, but it's not really a marriage any more is it? We don't live together and we don't talk unless it's about paying bills ...
True, she might never file, but she has said if I don't work with her on filling out the paperwork, then she'll get an attorney and do it. She has stated very consistantly that it's over and she will not come back or work on the marriage any more. That she has actually made her mind up last October that it was over. I think she's made her decision....
Now, I can stall and drag my feet, but will it solve anything? Or I can work with her and get it done and move on with life.
My family and friends have been telling me for months to "get on with it". I just can't seem to work up much energy to do it so far, but I'm afraid that the longer it drags out the more likely it will get nasty.
Is it time to give in and move on?? I never planned for this to happen to me .... hind sight is 20/20 .... But I think I've tried everything possible to "fix" things. It just isn't going to work unless she wants to work on it too.
