So if you admit you don't understand Deida's MAIN POINT. Here is what I believe that Deida's main point is, that men should have goals outside of their wifes that they should pursue. They should have purpose. That this will give the men "essential" happiness (Deidas own words). This is not FULFILLING happiness, this is not complete happiness, this is BASIC happiness. By doing so, the man can possible get the reward, which is a desirous woman. If not, then maybe he chose poorly and must move on to the next women, in effect to keep searching for the "reward".
?? So you truly think that the only reason men need women is to make them happy?? Why would I want a woman for those traits which will make me unhappy? There are obviously things that women can do for men that ATTRACT us, and those things that attract us make us happy. I can't imagine being drawn to someone for traits that make me LESS happy.
Sure I completely understand how great it feels to be desired. I just don't understand how you can't have an acceptable level of happiness without it. Never said that you couldn't. But the difference between these 2 levels of happiness is HUGE. The big problem is the chemicals of love and desire. You could be the best Deida man possible and you will never replicate the highs of being desired by a woman, you can't even come close. Sex won't even do it. So why aim LOW?
As for goals superior to a womans desire, what are they? What Could I possibly do in life that will EXCEED the highs that you get from being desired?
