It's going to be a bumpy ride

[Trixi]

I agree that he's telling you what he needs and you're missing it. You sound SO much like me - especially the shifting boundaries part. I am currently piecing but it's really up and down - and I soo wish I HAD set firm boundaries and stuck to them. Just last week, someone opened my eyes to the fact that I basically "told" H he could do anything he wanted, treat me poorly, be out and doing who-knows-what, and I'd be here for him no matter what. Yuck. There's loyalty and then there's just plain doormat.

NikkiB- looks like you have posted A LOT of things, so before I go and read your threads, just a couple of questions:
While your H was moved out- were there any boundaries you set and shifted? If so, what were they and what do you wish you had done differently? What do you think precipated your H's return? And how do you differentiate between being loyal and a doormat?

He gave me a kiss goodbye before he left (on the cheek).

Originally Posted By: NikkiB

The first night he slept away from me, he actually planned to stay until I went to bed "so I can tuck you in."

omg, I just had to comment on this. my jaw actually dropped...hard to do, considering all I have seen/dealt with in the past 4 months. wow. did you let him?

Yeah! Did you let him??

I found the Simpsons to be perfect...very funny, easy, escapism at its best.

Morgan, thanks for the recommendation. Ratatouille was a good movie. I was ambivalent about seeing the Simpsons (meaning, is it worth seeing it now and not waiting for the DVD)--but given my sitch, I think I should see it now.
You also seem to have the tough veneer down- can you sell me some of that??