astimegoeson, H comes over to stay with the kids tuesday mornings while I go to therapy, wedn after 3 (after he has therapy) usually until they go to bed (at 7), and then picks them up mid-late friday afternoon and takes them to his mom's (where he's living) until sunday morning. we both feel its important for the kids to see him a lot, for him to be a part of their life. if he takes the new job, this will likely change, since it will be an office job (he has a home office currently, so a lot of flexibility). honestly, when school starts, it will change anyway...the twins will only be in preschool for 2.5 hours/2x a week, and the eldest will be in part day kindergarten, so still room for visits, but it will have to vary. and if/when I ever go back to work, that too will change things. but for now, it works. I miss them terribly, but they need him, too. at least he isn't a total dick to them, he reserves that for me. oh the joy.
789, glad to have people understand. it is so freaking hard, I want to pull out my hair.
I did good, though, he kept calling and finally I answered (we were outside, so easy excuse for missing the calls earlier). I made something up for why I called....well, didn't make it up, just switched it, has to do with my sister and her kids coming into town and switching up some visitation.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
