I am so sorry for all you are going thru. but honestly, you know the answer...keep caring about your kids. I understand how frustrating it is, I do. I am floored that my H would choose subjecting our kids to divorce and all that goes along with it without trying to save the marriage first. but the one thing I know very clearly is that the only person I have control over is me. and I will be that rock for my kids...I will be very careful of them, and I will do whatever I can to make this transition, this horrible life change, as painless as possible. I know it won't be pain free, and I know there will be sadness and it will affect them, but I will do my best to minimize the damage. for me, part of that is exploring the notion of a play therapist for my eldest, possibly his siblings.
take care of yourself. stay strong, look for the silver linings, because as hard as they may be to find, there will be some...if not now, soon (maybe the fact that statistically a divorced man's lifestyle typically increases, a divorced woman's decreases, might give you comfort...I know that works in reverse for me, but hey, thought I'd throw that out there).
good luck.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
