Lin - Thanks for the advice. Amnesty nite sounds like a great idea. I think I will wait because I really hope he confesses on his own and will talk to the C about it too.
Whether he left them for me to find is 50/50. The 2 pages were buried in the middle of a spiral notebook he kept in his desk drawer. Not exactly out in the open. But it's unlike him to leave anything in the house; he's been so secretive and protective... phone, carkeys, secret email accounts, etc, plus he just asked me 2 weeks ago whether or not I go in his room. If he does want me to discover it, I'm afraid it's because he expects/wants me to leave him.
No indication as to who, how often, still going on, etc. He does have ~monthly business trips, different places. Jan-Jun, he went "out for drinks" nearly every weeknight, sometimes pretty late.
But things have been going pretty well this last month. He's behaving, staying in touch, somewhat affectionate with an ILY every other day or so, initiating R talks.
