I think what Deida was trying to get men to realize in that chapter is that women essentially wear out and can not do what much younger women do, and in a way, we should look for OTHER features in our wives.

Cemar, I actually feel sorry for you that you are not able to grasp the point of view Dieda has even if you don't agree with it.

What I thought he was actually saying is that while women lose their youthfulness, they also gain a knowledge, confidence and other characteristics that can also be very attractive and desired traits.

I just get this sense from his book that what he is trying to get men to do is to LOWER their own desire level so that the women can actually handle us.

IMO Deida is trying to get men to see themselves from their own POV and to feel good about themselves regardless of how their women react. And in the end that confidence is what will attract your wife's desire AND create the desire in her.

Please give a quote from Deida which you believe shows that he wants to lower men's desire because I don't get that impression at all.



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus