Then he asks if it was "ok" if his friend came along. I know I should have said "no, it would be nice to just be alone" AH! Nice guy syndrome. BTDT. When we go out with some of BB's friends, I am the odd-person-out. I never invite my friends when we go out. I do invite our friends a couple times a year, but that sometimes becomes a sticky-wicket.
So next time are you going to say, "tonight I want you to myself?" with a wink and a flirty smile?
No, he gets up and goes straight to bed, no goodnight, no nothing. Sorry to say BTDT,. BB does it a lot. I even had several talks with BB to the point where she over reacted and wanted to know if she needed permission to go to bed.
I don't even get a "I'm going to bed now" from you?" He just laughed it off and said, "come on to bed and cuddle me" [/b[ It was an offer that side-stepped the real issue. I can understand your POV.
Any way to turn what I will call a, half of a pie offer, when you want the whole pie, into something you can live with?
[b] This morning I told him I was mad at him for what he did Good, it takes guts to bring up subjects like this.
Did you say what you wanted last night, instead of just bringing up the problem?
there is no sensitivity in his blood at all. Maybe not last night, last week, but he did treat you and the kids lovingly for a long time after he met you from what you posted.
A common theme on this and other forums, is the poster wants the old personality back their SO used to display.
Come on, is it not obvious that his spouse needs a little attention after a week like I have had? I see that. Maybe he thinks ignoring the events is the form of relief he needs. But I can't say.
Some people need to talk, others need to forget. Seems like a little detachment is how he handles things.
Right now I feel I need to have someone put their arms around me and just say "it will be ok" - is that so difficult? I do the arm/hand thing to BB but it is one way.
From my POV I don't know how much it helps solve BB's problems/concerns.
From Mr. HW's POV, what do you think he thinks. Bad move on my part, asking you what he thinks. Just a question for you to maybe work on.
The reason I brought up the "what do you think he thinks" is because I do lots of things for BB, the R and myself but see very little evidence, what I did has much value in BB's opinion. She feels the same way many times. So there are tow people doing what they feel should work and when it does not work in their eyes, they cut back or withdraw. Of course detaching from the problems is some people’s MO.
