Well, I brought up the "allowance" although I didn't say that word. I told him that it might give him more freedom with the money and it would make me stop obsessing about it. I told him that he shouldn't have to ask me for money, and if we each had our own money he wouldn't have to. I was really doing this for me too because I am obsessing about it and I also feel like he is getting all this extra money and I am having to scrounge. Well, he didn't go for it. He said that he didn't mind telling me when he spends money and he would listen to me if I tell him he shouldn't get something because I know more about it than he does. Oh well, I guess I will just try and see how it goes. The thing that I have done is gone and taken out the same amount of cash for myself that he has spent on things like eating out and drinking.
Yeah, I already know that we wouldn't recoup the realtor fees. I think we would try to sell it ourselves first. The thing is that now that he is getting out of the Air Force there is no reason for either one of us to be here in January. That was always the plan, even before this started. Neither one of us are happy here. That's the reason I am leaning towards selling.
He knows that I do not want a D. He has never said that I am making him unhappy, he has just said marriage itself. He says he needs his freedom and some time to sort things out. I am trying to just keep my distance. When I talked to him yesterday he asked if I was ok. I just said yes, I'm fine. Two weeks ago I would have probably started crying and begging and pleading. So I think I am doing better.
Your friend may be right Terey, he probably is wondering what if left out if you are so eager to sign! I wonder if you bringing up the settlement and D is what is making him so angry. How long were you sep before? Was there talk of D then?
