There and Back

[SallyM]

some wtf's, courtesy of me to my h.

1) wtf, H, why are you mad at ME because you aren't living here? you've said you don't want to work on the marriage, that you don't want me, so why would you live here?

2) wtf, H, why are you complaining because you don't get to go to the gym all the time and I do. some consolation prize. and actually, you can, you just have to drive down to it...or get a guest pass for the ones closer to you.

3) wtf, H, why do you want to chat with me like a friend, but then treat me like an enemy?

4) wtf, H, why do you continue to lie to me about OW? does it really matter at this point? what purpose is it serving? seriously, you say you don't want me, that you don't love me anymore, so why not just be upfront about the fact that you are, indeed, seeing her? I mean, good god, man, you have her freaking keys on your keyring...do you think for one minute that anyone in the world would think otherwise? not to mention you full on admit to verbally socializing with her. why not just acknowledge that your love life/your sex life is alive and well. doesn't matter here in the great state of MA, so why????

5) wtf, H, why do you have to turn me into the villain here? Why does it matter if I am not acting as you do? Just accept your own choices, and leave me to mine.

6) wtf, H, why go to therapy at all if all you are going to do is externalize everything, and take responsibility for nothing?

7) wtf, H, if you are not going to try to save this marriage, why, why, why can't you do anything to end it? seriously...why smirk/cough/avoid discussion when I mention getting the house ready to sell. I'm a realist with stuff like this. If you are going to be a total ass to your WIFE, then why not at least have the decency to do something in order to make me more comfortable, rather than less comfortable, with the inevitable. why make things harder than they have to be?