He's still with her, and I'm moving on (part 2)...

[Hope_11]

Thanks Mike, I really appreciate your comments. I was doing so well and then this happens.

That said, I'm still not clear why you wanted that language added. I know it was on the other template you found, but it really only limits you, not STBXH.

The reason I wanted the language added was because the lawyer that I consulted with recommended that I not sign the form without referring to the judgment. H's attorney must not put that language in his standard form.

Did you ever get a copy of the Complaint? Was it ever filed with the court, or is this all supposed to be filed at the same time? My memory is that it has not been filed, and you don't have a Case Number.

Yes, I received H's petition for dissolution of marriage. It doesn't list out any of the assets. Under relief sought it says, "The petitioner be awarded as petitioner's own property all of petitioner's non-marital property. The court award to petititioner a just portion of the marital property of the parties. The court shall make such order as may be just in reference to the debts of the parties. For such other relief as the court deems appropriate and equitable." No, it has not been filed...no case number exists. Does the complaint usually list out the assets or is that what the Judgment is for?

So, I think you have to turn on that old cell phone one more time, and tell your STBX what it is that you want. You want to have a copy of the filed complaint. You want to be present at the hearing. And most importantly, you do not want to be pressured to sign papers that make false statements.

I did talk to H...he called first and I returned his call. He was confused and a little annoyed. I just told him that I didn't want to sign that form and then not be notified when the court date was. I told him it was a misunderstanding. The Judgment of Dissoluation stating the distribution of the assets is fine. I thanked him for getting it changed to the way we agreed upon. I told him that I would contact his attorney tomorrow and tell him that I will return the signed form. I agree with everything...the attorney I talked to just said if H's attorney was crooked they could pretend like the Judgment doesn't exist...but then went on to say that H's attorney is a good guy. I don't think that there is anything to worry about. I told H I would like to be notified of the court date. He told me he would do that. I'll sign it and they can have their nice little neat package to file.