I'm punching the air for both you guys. Seriously.
Lou it sounds like you have made a ton of progress since I was last here and I'm so happy for you.
And as for Crazy Eddie - you are a genius. I especially like this part:
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You are willing to overlook others' flaws, but not your own. Having your flaws pointed out to you hurts badly, because you're ashamed of them, so you think that pointing out anyone else's flaws is going to hurt them just as deeply, and you try to avoid doing that and you want them to do the same to you. While other people assume that a certain degree of constructive criticism is part of normal interaction between people that are close to each other, and they get confused and frustrated when you react so strongly to it.
It reminded me so much of the time HD was courting MsHD and he told her she had wrinkly eyes - in a kidding kind of way. And she liked it she wasn't mad at him for it. HD has stopped doing that, he needs to start again and he needs to accept it when she does it to him. Ramp up the the funny guy we all know you are HD and assume you are going to Tuscon.
By the way if MsHD did not want to hear that you had been jacking off why did she ask? Why did she flat out ask you after you told her she didn't want to know and then when you said yes, she told YOU off for being to in-your-face???? This woman is screwy.
Also regarding finances, H and I have always had our own accounts containing 'pocket money' everything else is joint. The pocket money is what we get to spend no questions asked. We don't argue about money. No money that we earn ever goes into the pocket money accounts it goes straight to the joint account.
Fran Basking in 27 degrees in London after a solid 2 months of rain
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
