Musings from the Trenches

[MJontheMend]

You know how some financial experts advise that you should always pay yourself first and put away some savings no matter what is going on otherwise in your financial life? I think that is how sex on vacation should be handled. Figure out how to make the sex work first and then make your other plans around the sex. Of course, this would be a priority with me because any sort of novel new scene or experiences I would encounter on a vacation would be a turn-on as would lying on the beach in the sun or hiking in the woods etc. etc.

If I'm remembering your kids ages right, it seems to me that they would be thrilled if you gave them the opportunity to be more independent while on vacation and just sent them off with some cash and you could just lie by the pool reading steamy fiction and drinking something with an umbrella in it and then inviting BF back up to the room for a nap. Part of the problem with Mommy-Mode is that there is some self-deception going on which involves you telling yourself that everybody needs you because on some level you want to believe that everybody needs you. If your kids are younger than I'm assuming, you should find a cool older teen to bring along as a chaperone/kid minder in exchange for free vacation and some spending cash. My aunt had 8 kids but she always just had relaxing vacations spent drinking, playing cards with her cousins and going out in the evening because she always brought au pairs or child minders with her.