I have been following your postings and have to say you are doing much better then I did...
The hardest thing is patience and time...but soon you learn patience is the best thing you can develop...not just for your R/M but for all R's you will have with your kid(s), friends, work, etc...
And TIME...believe it or not it is your friend...I know how hard it is because my H was gone for about a year and a half...he gave me NO hope...would NOT read anything...would NOT even consider giving us another chance...but in TIME his heart did soften...combined with the new and improved ME he did look back...of course it wasn't an obvious "Hey W, I messed up, maybe we could try and work this out."...I still had to watch actions and not listen so much to words...
In TIME I too got to the point where I knew I would be okay on my own and as a single parent...never what I wanted as we had raised 2 D's but still had a young S...I had never supported myself on my own because I went from single at home to married with H...I was scared to death...but once I started actually doing it...and we were surviving on our own...and I was finding my OWN happiness things just seemed to feel better and I knew no matter what I was going to be okay...and I was going to get my kids through this...
On GAL...no matter what you have to KEEP that for yourself...even if you reconcile don't give yourself up for the R/M...make sure you continue to do things for YOU...for your KID(s)...for your FAMILY...and for your W...this keeps things balanced...I didn't realize how unbalanced in my R/M I had become...I was doing so much more for H then anyone...I was doing for my kids and my family...but along the way I really lost ME...now that I have ME back I make sure that I do things for "her"...because if I lose ME...I risk losing it all again...
I do see a lot of positives in your situation...hang in there...TIME is on your side...take care....Lin
