And according to my bf, there are three distinct Corri modes:
1) Corri mode
2) Mom-mode Corri
3) Mom-mode Corri on Vacation
Corri mode is Who I Am, you know, just me... and there's lots of touching, hugging, kissing, and lots of... etc., just naturally.
Mom-mode Corri is Who I Am at Home, with my kids and my bf is also there. Touching and hugging is more 'timed,' based on where the kids are in the house, kwis? I mean, we kiss and hug and hold hands in front on the kids, but certainly keep it G rated. The 'etc.,' is definitely limited. When there is only certain windows of time when we can 'etc.,' things aren't as natural, they are a little more... planned... and if we are wiped out, we cuddle and go to sleep.
Mom-mode Corri on Vacation... jesus christ, that is work. And I wouldn't even call it a vacation... I'd call it a trip I am taking with my bf and my kids. There is some hugging, a spattering of passionate kisses... some hand holding... we go morning til night...doing 'stuff.' Everyone needs something, wants something, can't find something, wants to know what we're doing next something... and they COMPETE for my attention. It's emotionally and physically draining, and when bed-time rolls around, and my kids are in the ajoining room with paper-thin walls... I can manage a lovely kiss good-night and some cuddling.
This is quite an eye-opening revelation for me... and it is very real... just wondering if any of you HD ladies ever go through this as well...
Corri Mode, Mom-Mode, and Mom-mode on vacation.... Women seem to always want to go into Mom mode. Ever hear of a man going into DAD mode? I don't know that I have EVER heard of Dad-Mode, and if there was such a thing, I would bet that it would only happen with LD men.
Why do you ladies go into mom mode, nothing good comes from it, so why freaking GO there. Corri mode is good, the others are bad.
The whole purpose of vacation is to allow you to get CLOSER to your man, not further away.
It totally sounds normal to me and YES men go into dad-mode too - like how they sit around and do absolutely nothing while the woman does everything and then they wonder why their W doesn't feel like having sex
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Believe it or not, mom-mode does have a purpose... and it is completely biological. Otherwise, we'd kill the man after he served our mating purposes, and we'd eat our young.
I'm sorry, I've never HEARD of a romantic vacation that involves kids. That doesn't mean you can't work in a quickie here or there, if the situation presents itself... but if you actually believe that you are going to be getting serious nookie with kids along... you are seriously bent.
We go into Mom Mode to keep the kids from killing off one another, and to protect the other, innocent, vacationers. We go into Mom mode so the toddler doesn't fall off the balcony while 'Dad' is getting his vacation nookie.
I can't believe you. I just cannot believe you... No wonder why you aren't getting any. You are completely absent of empathy. I'm pretty certain at this point you are narcissistic.
My bf did NOT complain. At all. We were just having a discussion... he laughed... but I won't go further because you just won't understand.
So... I'm just wondering, how the HD ladies handle FAMILY trips with little to no privacy... and does it affect their SD or SL the same way...
Good posts Corri. Most reasonable men know there is a time and place for serious nookie and kids almost on top of you isn't one of those places.
A quickie was all BB and I did on vacation and it didn’t happen that often. Most of the time never.
Now if grandmother took the kids to the carnival or someplace for an hour and BB and I stayed behind at grandmothers house, that might have been another thing.
What happened, the 6 of us did things together when we were on vacation.
to keep the kids from killing off one another The preverbal Billy/Susie is.....and the “I want”....from the kids was enough to deal with. Setting up a time and place for sex wasn’t in the cards.
Serious Nookie waited till we got back home.
Cemar, Choc was in dad mode, so don’t say it doesn’t happen.
What I meant was that in Corri mode, I bet you can play all the rolls from Mom to lover, and be able to switch in and out of those roles instantly as circumstances allow. When I hear MOM mode, I cringe, because to me this means NOT being able to switch roles quickly. I know, my wife has been in it nonstop for 18 straight years. In mom mode, us guys basically become either a nuisance or just a helpful coparent or invisible. In other words, there is no real man/woman relationship when mom-mode is on.
I know in my own circumstances, when I go on vacation with the wife(kids or no kids), she actually gets COLDER to me then warmer, she does not want to ML in some one elses bed, even if it is a hotel bed. This is why I stopped taking her away alone.
Cemar my H is the one that would point blank refuse any advances when our sons were teenagers in case they'd hear as he had a hangup from overhearing his mum and dad when HE was a teenager. So some men do go into dad mode too!!!
Corri know what you mean but if you could plan a vacation with child friendly staff that supervise them for a few hours would give you more of a break plus a chance to relax and have some fun with BF.
Lots of resorts in Europe have clubs for kids with trained child minders and facilities where kids eat early and mum and dad have adult time. Mums need a break too. Must be something similar in U.S. check out for next year or make sure you and BF get a weekend somewhere romantic for just the 2 of you.
Yep, do it all the time. Frankly when I'm on the floor horse-playing with my kids, my W could walk by in the sexiest outfit from VS or FoH and I wouldn't notice unless she stuck it in my face, and even then it would be hard to break away.
And if anyone, ANYONE, threatens my children, I go into a different kind of dad mode, the kind that can kill without a second's hesitation.
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Why do you ladies go into mom mode, nothing good comes from it
That has to be the dumbest thing I've heard in a long time. Sure, I'm not particularly fond of mommy-mode, but its only a problem if they get STUCK there. When my child falls and bonks their head on the coffee table, or it comes time to pack up the kid's stuff for vacation, or decide what the kids are going to eat this week, or buying NECESSARY clothes, etc. etc. mommy-mode is FREAKIN (to use your favorite word) useful and gosh-darn important.
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The whole purpose of vacation is to allow you to get CLOSER to your man, not further away.
Good golly you've got it bad dude. An important life lesson for you my friend ... A VACATION WITH CHILDREN IS NOT USUALLY A VACATION FOR THE ADULTS. When you become a parent you accept the responsibility to nuture and care for your children, even if it means that this nuturing comes as your expense. Sometimes the nurturing is rewarding in its own right, sometimes it is d@mned frustrating. But you suck it up and do it. If you happen to get a quickie while on vacation, its a perk not a right or obligation. Jeezus man. You are surely forgetting your past if you have this attitude and have children.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
