You're correct in that most try to downplay the need of a good relationship. The question that everyone brings to bear is have you done everything in your power to self-actualise? Do you have hobbies and interests that don't involve women or the the attraction principles?
Yes, men could concievably do without female companionship. According to biology we're really not needed and if necessary the female of the species could pro-create by themselves. Why are men here on the planet? My personal view is that we provide a break from what would be a very humdrum life for females. A form of biological entertainment and chaos in a naturally calm system.
With that in mind, what do men provide women that they can't themselves provide? Start switching the angle of your inquiry. Personally, I could do without women, but they provide a very great form of satisfaction. Love isn't all based on physical attraction, it's got a lot to do with intertwining interest. People that have accidents learn to live without sex, but it's still "missing". It's a natural part of life.
So, if you're a follower of Dieda, then you can realise "sex" without the need of commitment and therefore you can be a lone island. Fine. It's pretty cold out there with only male company so men usually modify their behaviour so that females become part of the social scene.
What everyone keeps pounding at is that once you find peace within yourself you can make a choice to be happy with what is, or make changes to achieve what you want. Do you want to be desirable to the opposite sex? There's plenty you can do. Do you want to be desirable to just one element of the opposite sex? Study what they like. The problem occurs when what they like is in direct odds with your core personality. That's where most men have problems and where many relationships breakdown. Men rarely open up to their core until long into a standing relationship and that's usually when conflicts occur.
Whew. That's enough spouting from me for now. 25 keeps pounding on me to state the following " This is my own personal opinion" but it's based on long observation in multiple countries. Take what you need and throw the rest in the trash.
