Cemar, I don't know what it will take for you to be happy with your w or be as happy as the situation will allow.
You have what you have and I don't think you can change your W to do all of the things you want or have done.
To be a good wife, you CAN'T lose your sex drive. Well, it happens so what are you going to do? Keep saying what you want in a hot W won't make your W more HD.
People lose their SD. Sometimes the question gets down to what are you going to change or do, not what the LD spouse needs to do.
So for a woman to admit that she does not want or like sex is admitting that she is incompatable with most men, that she is a lousy catch. That is your take on the situation.
Look at Lil's bf, he backs away from or avoids sex.
My advice to you is make the best of what sex you do have with your W, take care of yourself as often as the need arises, and drop a few things from your list.
I don't ever see you and your W being on the same page. It happens that way, more than I like to admit.
