H came to pick up d today. She saw him coming so she ran to her room and locked the door. H came in and I told him she was upstairs in her room b/c she didn't want to go. H went up and told her to open her door. At first she didn't say anything , but then she said she didn't want to go. "why are you making me go?" He just told her b/c he wanted her to spend some time with him and she would be fine.

He kept banging on her door until finally she opened it. She called out to me "mommy, please don't make me go." "come and get me mommy." I stayed downstairs. H picked her up and brought her downstairs and grabbed her overnight bag. D asked H if she could hug me goodbye and told him she didn't want to sleepover. She looked so sad as he carried her out to his car.

About 20 min later I get a TM from H. It said "In the future please don't let d lock herself in her bedroom."

WTF? It's like he has to somehow make me look bad. She ran up the stairs and locked her door. What was I going to do about that? Why did he feel the need to say something??

Anyway d has called 3x since he picked her up, but she has decided to sleepover. I am very surprised b/c she was extremely upset when she left.


*** Also, H wants to take d to amusement park on Monday. I told him that she has a C appt. at 2:00 that day (which he already knew about btw), but I told him again. He said I can r/s it.
I told him I really didn't want to do that b/c it's important that d go. The C is going to be out of town for 2 weeks and she squeezed d in before she left b/c she felt d needed it. H said that d is doing better and it's better therapy for her if she spends time with him rather than go to her C.

I stood my ground and told H that d was going to keep her appt with the C and that I would hope he would support me.

I hope I am doing the right thing by telling him no. D has been having such a hard time and acting out. H doesn't realize what I have been going through. School is coming soon and I don't want to deal with it. There isn't much time left to get her over her anxiety.

I think H thinks that b/c she is doing okay so far this weekend that she is over her anxiety. I can already hear him say she doesn't need C anymore , that is she fine.

I did ask him if he could take her to the amusement park a different day this week b/c he told me he is on vacation. He replied, " No, tues and weds I am going away and the rest of the week d17 has to work."
So d7 gets put last? I mean why isn't her C appt as important?

**** And on top of it- weds would have been our 11th wedding anniversary and he is going away with Ow!!! We are still legally H and W.... I guess to him it's just another day.
Ouch.... \:\( If he can go away with his GF on the day WE got married then he is definitely over me! That really hurts. Did he forget what day Weds. is????


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