i think you got the basics of what i was saying, basically w wants to feel wanted by me, she has expressed this. but when i open my mouth and try and say nice things she pulls back, if i do nothing our r seems to go well. so hard to figure out. actions speak louder than words, even though she has asked for the verbal.
i sort of ride this fine line, between initiating contact too often and not at all. so i'm very careful about it, usually just use text, since no reply is required and your not on the line immediately. seems to work well.
text'ed her today with "hope work went well, have a fun time tonight." a few hours later i got a call from w. asked her how work went and she said well. she then tells me here whereabouts again, she wouldn't be doing this if there wasn't a vested interest, and she stated she wanted me to know where she was. hmmmm. great sign, but sort of feel like i'm controlling, but she is voluntering all of this, i'm not asking at all. but it makes me feel like she wants me to control by the way she is telling me. it's a good sign for sure but just weird.
well she is going to mil's tonight to eat and going to stay there tonight. told me she was nervous and sick of her mother glaring at her over this. told her i was sorry that she felt their r was suffering. w said not to worry, she would straighten it out with her eventually. told me to have a good night and sleep well. told her the same. it's so weird, it's like were dating and checking in on each other and saying these nice things, but i can't get a date. haha.
brother called to see how i was doing, we talked for some time. he just returned from a 2 week long drill with the military. he has a niece that is 1 and half years. broke the news that they are pregnant again, still really early, but they are excited. sort of funny, he used to ride motorcycles a lot in college and so i was talking to him about the new obsession, and he said well guess what i'm buying. oh i took the hook, what? a minivan! haha.
jenjam,
i don't know if you ever read my sitch, but i just read your looking at the big picture and the problems that casues. tackle a corner and a little piece at a time and soon the whole picture will be covered. this makes so much sense on the goals. while mine are written and weekely updated, even with large interactions i'll have ones for that day, i have let this go lately and need to get back on it. great analysis, it really helps when the vets post this type of wisdom for us all.
