Well, Strange, it sounds like the equity plan that you have is fair to me, can't say your W, will agree though, but it is worth a shot.
As far as W, trying to make things tuffer on you, Yeah I would also agree with that statement, she knows that you are doing it all yourself, and that you are relying on no one for help, now she can't say that can she, I mean she is may be paying her half, living with the OM, but she does have some one paying the other half, and maybe more, you just never know, remember believe nothing of what they say, and half of what you see, that goes both ways, I know that my W, sometimes wants me to feel sorry for her, she tells me the OM, doesn't work in the rain, and it rains a lots, but that is not my problem, now is it? You know it is funny, one minute they tell you how good they are doing, the next, they tell you how bad everything is, What are you to believe? I just say whatever, myself, and leave it at that. I don't worry about it, either way, I used to, but now, it's really not my problem, whether her bills are paid or not.
As far the bike, good for you, I don't know if you mentioned it before or not, but what kind of bike events do you do, now?
I started really seeing things more clearly, when I started detaching myself from my W, I don't know if you know about that or not, but let me tell you it is and it is not what you think it is. I found that you have to detach, to see the big picture, I have a link that someone gave me a while back, that I don't know if you have read or not, if you have then, believe me it doesn't hurt to read it again, every now and then, here it is. http://www.coping.org/control/detach.htm
It is all about detaching, the one thing that used to really tick me off, when I first got here, is when the good people here told me about it, I would get so defensive, I would yell at them. Now, I am so ashamed of how I acted, I was so lost back then, but once I read it a few times, it started to sink in. Now I try to read it every now and then, and it still helps.
Just like you've been/are there for me, I am here for you, Take Care Bro.
