Since I got the "I love you but am not in love with you" bomb last month, I've been lurking here and picked up a lot of advice and support. Also read Divorce Remedy, been working the 180/GAL, and trying my best to eat and sleep and breathe. My first post, so here's the short story...
I've noticed his MLC for almost a year now but let him be. Last 6 months, his behavior has been bad and we've been fighting and I've been sad and suspicious. Since the bomb, he's started to open up and thinks he's in MLC (no, I didn't suggest it). In our many recent talks, he assured me a few times that he's been faithful; the worst thing he says he's done is dance.
As I suspected, he's been lying to me. I snooped today and discovered his notes on "things I know" and "things I don't know". Among these is "I cheated and lied about it" followed by "haven't been able to (or wanted to?) stop myself."
I spotted him writing these notes within the last month. On the other hand, we recently agreed to work on us, have been communicating better than ever, and our first counseling appt. is next week. But now what do I do? Should I admit that I snooped (which I know was WRONG) and confront him? Of course, I want to know everything including whether or not I can forgive him and whether or not this is behind him. Before jumping into reaction, I thought I should quit lurking and get some advice.
So what do ya'll think I should do now? _____ Me 39, H 35 M 5, T 15 No kids Bomb: 6-30-07
