Since you said "I had to giggle because of our situations when you said you looked like Valerie I have been told that but a blonde one" I say we both take our spouses for all we can get. Pack up our kids move to Australia and have Andyv build us a house. During the summer holidays we can have Yoyo, Cades Delia, Sara, Olive and everybody else on this board come and visit. Of course we will have to wait until after my surgery….
sound good?
husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Perfect...Count me in....I have decided that I was always alittle cautious about new adventures but always had a lot of fun. I think now I'm up for the adventures...What u think is that the way to start GAL?????
Perfect...Count me in....I have decided that I was always alittle cautious about new adventures but always had a lot of fun. I think now I'm up for the adventures...What u think is that the way to start GAL?????
Oh Man, great I finely find a woman that feels the same way as I do and I need to have surgery. Will ya wait for me?
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Penny, It's great to hear from you. Sorry things have not gotten any better for you. I too concentrated on my children. I guess I didn't know how to find a balance. Stay strong, we're here for you.
Your twin Val
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I am just writing to VENT. I just talked to H he is about 2 hours away. I can feel the anxiety starting all over again. I ask if he was going to be around tonight and he said that a friend of his ( that has been a pain to me all our marriage is flying home to day and he has to meet him over some business that might help H and BIL) This guys has been divorce 5 times, lived with more, a con man. and not a good influence. I know he will meet him but also will have the other W meet him over there at this guys house. How convenient.....I know I should be stronger but I guess deep down I still have some feelings for him like all of us and he has moved ahead with out me. I just need help emotionally.......I thought he would aleast stop and see his S and his parents but like always he comes first.
I know now where I stand and I don't know why it bothers me so much. I guess I have always been a caring person.
((((Penny)))) Vent Away !!!! Don't be so hard on yourself. You haven't done a thing that hasn't been done on here. Still after all these months I still hope that my H will wake up from the fog. I still have a hard time handling emotions when I hear his voice.
You can't just erase your feelings when you have been with a person so long. It is sad that your H is not seeing S or parents, but totally believeable. These WAS are all about themselves. As everyone calls it... The Fog. Hang in there I'm with you.
I keep trying to repeat the serenity prayer to myself.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Well He came and got his trailer and moved over t help his brother abotu 100 miles away. It is closer to where she works. He tried to be real freiendly just zoom in and zoom out. I called his parents and told them he was here so they came down to see them or I don't think he would have. I finally said we have to get this out in the open what is going to happen while yo are home this month. He is helping his brother and that is his priority and I said what about her. WEll guess who he has picked its amazing what they have in there mind that you have done and how they have tried to help you but forget what all you have done for them. He said I was a procasinater and just told me that kind of stuff. I wish I would have said who is the biggest procastinator he said he has wanted out for 5 years but didn't want to be the bad guy. He said he hadn't been a good husband and do I want to live with that for another 25 years or find something and be happy. She will benefit from all of the years of hard work and support I gave him. His family is such a strong big family and they have been my family longer than I was at home. I am an only child so there is quite a difference. If this business deal doesn't work out I have but 25 years of hard work and trying to hold things together one thing that I have is good boys. He doesn't think they are pushing them selves hard enough. I feel like he has strung me a long for thesse last 5 years because he didn't want to face it. So by me saying I have had enough it has given him a way out. I have to get past the thoughts that I have failed my familyand me and him. I have always been pretty successful at what I have done but to fail at he most important thing tears me a part. Maybe its the fear of being alone or because he has always been there even thru the Affairs. That is why its so hard. I have always held everything together. I have been there for his parents and his family thru alot of hardships and had them count on me. They have always been there for me. This really going to be hard. I have 3 SIL's that are really close friends and I have been close to all of his brothers. I lam the one that looks out after his parents. But then it makes you feel that you haven't done enough. Even his family has said you have done all you can and put up with way more then they would have. I know its going to be tough on everyone. I still do alot for this family. I'm running a business that we are in partners with his dad and another brother. That will all have to be dissolved. What a mess.....I hope she will be worth it. He says it isn't about her. Which we had problems before as we all know but he says that he is way ahead of me and is not waiting for me to catch up to him.
Well guess that is enough whining. I need to get my business sense going and see what I can do. It is the pits to have to start over at the age you are supposed to be finding each other again. I used to think I had to wait till the kids were grown up to do leave but now at least they would be home and you don't have to be by yourself. This is going to be a long old process because it is so complicated and I do all of this other business for his dad. Maybe she should come take over she is so perfect...That is my jab for the day. Is it not amazing that the OW is everything he hated. Controlling and bossy, not good with money, not a good mother at all horrible in fact but she is on her good behavior and has him by the you know what.....I hope some day he gets to see the other side that isn't perfect. He told me that he has tried to motivate me and the kids and can't so the only one can take care of is himself. So we are on our own.
I to YOYO have said that prayer over and over an also I have said "THis to shall Pass" ITs easy to give you guys advice but it hard to accept and do it your self. My friends have said you have hung on long enough he is never going to come back and he is just using you to get his stuff done.
Well What a way to start a week. I just dread like you guys starting the process. I should make him file now.
