She's Leaving Again II

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She said she didn't know if she wanted a D, she just wanted to separate because she needs to get herself together without the pressure of me wondering when it was going to happen. I wanted to speak, but DR says to listen. She went on to say that she goes back and forth about wanting to leave. She said it would be easier on her emotionally if she left, but financially it doesn't make sense if we are going to be together in the future. It would just be a waste of money. I didn't offer anything. Actually, I didn't have anything to offer. I was content just listening to her speak.

I don't know your whole situation, but she is on the fence it sounds like, don't push or pull in any way. She is thinking about two of you, and anyone here would love for their spouse to do that.

She said she didn't have a plan. She just wants to continue her therapy and get herself better. Then she would be able to think about us.

Once again that is a very positive sign, small but positive. She is right, unless she can find/get herself better, it is hard for to even think about the two of you.

Oh yeah, she still hasn't produced the panties form the other night. I am not asking again. I just know in my mind that the OM has them. And as long as she can't produce them, that's thought I will live with.

If that is not a deal breaker for you, just let it drop. What is their to prove at the moment. If she did do something and tells you, you will probably blow up on her. If she didn't she has nothing to say which also gets you thinking and upset. So let it drop if you can.