Lil Making a comparison between once a week and three times a week is hairsplitting.
How about once a YEAR? Once every FIVE YEARS? Once every DECADE?
Can we all agree that THAT is not normal? That that is NOT a marriage That is not any way near a normal M, Lil.
It's not just a question of "getting needs met"-- if MONTHS go by with no sex, no kissing, no groping, no cuddling... can that really be a marriage? Only if both people are happy with that arrangement, other wise if it is a M, it is a poor M in my opinion. People have done it probably ever since humans have been around.
Some of us do the kissing, some or a lot of cuddling, or like me, give foot and back rubs, but the affection, physical freeness stops when genitals are involved or the kissing goes past some ones comfort level. Is that a M?
Look at Choc's M. I think he could do some or most of the kissing and touching, but not the genital contact part.
Some say it is. I say it is a M where crumbs are the norm. I want bread and cake. Oops, wrong diet! Make that meat and the two vegetables menu is more to my liking.
Lil, to me once a month is like driving a car on a compact spare tire. Doable in emergency situations but not good for long term effectiveness unless both people are fine with the arrangement.
I am down to the compact spare stage on the M and am thinking about parking the car and walking or riding my bike.
