Matilda, I am glad you have such a good friend. The time on the boat sounds nice, I am glad you were able to enjoy it.
You are exactly right, that is why you hired a lawyer. Now remember not to help H with any of the D. If he wants it he has to do the work, all of the work.
As for your goals do start by thinking of something good to do for youself. What do you enjoy?
How is D16 doing?
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011