The link you sent was SO helpful, as has been all the words of encouragement! I'm trying to hang in there.
One of the things that has come up again and again between me and my H is that he does see that things are different between us. I've been trying to show him that and we have even talked a little about it, even though I have resisted for the most part. He's just scared that it won't last. We have been separated for 6 months now, so the little time we spend together has been really good. He's just scared that once we're back together under one roof that things will go right back to the way that it used to be. In the past, there have been these little "honeymoon" periods, which have later just spiraled downward. This time, I know that this is definitely coming from a different place, but I don't know how to make him understand that. I guess it will probably just take time. The difficult thing is that our relationship has always been good when we were apart--we lived long distance for four years while I was in college and he in the Marines. It was right when we first started living together that things started to go downhill. I attribute it to being young (23 when we moved in) and also being in the middle of planning our wedding. However, he sees it that we are great apart, but just can't live together. I just don't know how to get through to him if we aren't together--it sort of just fulfills his expectations.
