Perhaps you are right and I will keep this advice in mind, however, I have to do what feels right for me. If I try it and it doesn't work, it will be my job to re-evaluate and try something new. I promise I am not going forth blindly. I know exactly how he feels about her. I have a pretty good idea of how she feels about him too.
What I have been doing so far seems to be working. I'm not ready to second guess this move just yet. And, nothing I try can be wrong if it feels right to me. The mistake would be to continue if it doesn't help. I've been all about the 180s so I think I will be ready to shift gears entirely if he doesn't seem to respond.
I know neither of you is trying to be negative, both are watching out for my best interest and I am extremely grateful to have your input. I assure you that I will not forget she is there. However, I think now may be the time for him to be able to hear an outside source tell him how dangerous it is to keep this relationship going and might actually agree. It would help you to understand if you knew my H. I can only say that now FEELS like the right time and I am going to go forward with this.
Probably my stubborness and impatience play a role here too but I need to try this while he is showing signs of being ready.
Thank you so much for your candor and your concern. I really do take what you say to heart and I will be very careful. I promise!
...still hanging in there!
M - 40 H - 45 (Big Time MLC - Currently House Hopping) S - 11 (w/ Asperger's Syndrome Autism) D - 5 (w/ Type 1 Diabetes) 1 Dog and 2 Cats Married 10/92, Bomb 10/06, H moved out Mother's Day 07 (Sweet huh?)
