What is normal? I can say what is desirable for me.
Here is part of a post that I see most HD men face. How do I push for what I want when someone post things like this and I could say that is what my W is or might be feeling.
My question to the LDW that eliminated sex in her M. What do you mean by giving in? When you say giving in, I hear you implying you have something that is more valuable than what your H has.
Her reply: I suppose I am. Maybe not implying a value in general as much as a value to me. I read a bit on Marriagebuilders.com and got slapped in the face by my ability to relate to how he describes sexual aversion ( http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5047_qa.html ). Read down to What Is an Aversive Reaction? and Sexual Aversion
Thats me to a "T", to the point of horrible physical and emotional tension at the very thought. I know how I got here and remember it well, but somewhere it just got bigger and bigger until it was an unconquerable monster to me. I can see this is probably going to be VERY hard. (No puns intended)
Not an uncommon story. It's one reason the HD spouse holds back, settles for less sex. Who in their right mind wants their spouse to suffer something like an aversion.
Of course, not all LD spouses have aversion issues.
