ewe has some very good advice. Me and started to separate about a month ago. She was very scared about me taking our son and that she would never see him. Her comments about this would anger me. I have never threatened to do that to them or would I ever do that. But, the fear was she was feeling was not from something I had said or that she believed would keep him from her, but from the fear of being separated and her having to be out on her own. To ease her fear about our son I filed for the D so she would feel safe and protected. I filed even though I told myself that even in a thousand years of misery I would not ever file. She would have to. This act brought back a lot of trust into our R. She knew how much I was against a D, but saw that I took all the initiative to get one just to make her feel safe.
Right now I am working very hard (not easy at all) to give her her space and for me to GAL. Being that Zen Buddist that ewe mentions above. I am at more peace with our S and things between me and the W are a lot less tense and easier to coupe with. Things seem to be slowing taking a turn for the better.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
