I can so relate.....my H left soon after I had a horrible reaction to a paret we had....I got hives that lasted for 3 months and I fell into a depression (taking bynadral every three hours)....He said I was distant and he thought I no longer loved him, but only needed him....I wasnt working at the time...one of my huge changes..I am now working full time! The 180 really worked for me!!!
You really sound like you are on track!!!!
And yes those little positives we get from them (the fries)...mean so much!!!
Hang in there...she sounds like she is really coming around, be her friend...be her BEST friend!!! That is what saved my h,s and my m...