What is normal, acceptable, desirable levels of ML

[Heywyre]

I do not believe there is one hard-fast rule regarding what is "normal" and all the so-called "experts" out there drive me up a wall when they talk that way.

Even HD people, like myself, vary from week to week. Right now, sure, I would say I would like it everyday. But once I got a steady routine of that, it might cut back some weeks to only a couple of times and then the following week nothing and then the following week back to everyday.

"Normal" is what two people agree on for THEM, no one else. I am hoping when H and I finally get to the point of ML once again, we can come to that compromise. To me, it would be almost everyday, to him it might be once a month (which would be a HUGE improvement for him) but if we can settle at somewhere in between, I would be satisfied and consider it "normal" for us.