Whenever I read any "facts" about men thinking of sex x number of times a day, and women basically thinking of it never I want to scream!!! I just don't see it that way. Those things always make it seem like I am some kind of freak and I am not. I am a woman and I love sex!!!! I really don't have any female friends who never think about it so I have no idea where all these facts come from. Just because it is not my only thought throughout the day does not mean I don't want or enjoy having sex. I think there is no normal number in regards to frequency though. Some people are quite happy with once a month while others would find that unbearable. And alot of it depends on a couples age. Short of medical problems, I do not know how anyone could turn down a spouse time and again. I have never turned down my husband and never would. However, I think a huge part of the problem is that people are always trying to find out what is normal. Are you trying to keep up with the Jones' ? What works for them is not necessarily work for you!! I think a marriage is sex-starved whenever one spouse thinks it is because obviously someone's needs are not being met.
