Im glad it is done for you and your kids. That is the part I am dreading if H leaves again. First time my H left, I had told kids first even though he asked me not to. I felt like I had to prepare them for it. It really is a sad sitch for the kids.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I'm glad that is over too. The one thing I know for sure is I won't entertain the thought of H coming back at this point. He must do the hard work to change BEFORE I would even consider it and than I'm just now sure. What my kids have gone through, has been heart wrenching. I won't let that happen to them again.
I hope things go well for you. This up and down was just more than I could or would do anymore.
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
Im getting there myself. I think it would be easier to cope with my H not there. He is there, at home, but not really. You know?
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
That sometimes does make it harder. I didn't have to deal with that b/c H left after he dropped bomb. I do think it made it easier for me to detach and begin setting boundaries. More importantly, it helped me be able to stick w/those boundaries.
BUT, it can also make it more difficult to reconcile when you aren't together. I guess it depends on the person, huh?
I hope you are ok. I just read your thread and hate the turmoil you are going through.
Stay strong.
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
Hi sweety, boy you've been through a lot since yesterday night....wow you are a great mom for telling your kids and letting them have their reaction and emotions with you, I know you wonder if you did the right thing, but you did ! Your H is a nutter now and your kids DESERVE to be surrounded with love and someone they can trust ! Well done !!!
I hope you find something to do for yourself tonight ! I'll be here if you wanna chat ! Love,
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Hi Bam- You are a doing so great. You are going to come out the other side of this being a much stronger, more compassionate, more loving person. Your kids will always know how you have been there for them through all of this and they will know that you will be there for them for everything yet to come. It is a hard thing for you all to go through but you are their one constant. Find comfort in knowing how much your kids love you.
I am ok tonight. I picked up my divorce petition to review and sign. I thought it would really hit me when I saw my name vs. "crazy", but it really didn't upset me. I was able to look it over and the agreement of who pays what until the house sells (actually it is all what he pays )
I went to dinner w/my sister and BIL and we talked quite a bit about my marriage. I can really see things from a different perspective now. My marriage wasn't bad exactly. It just wasn't about "us". It was about "him" always. We talked about some things that happened where it was so obvious the H put himself first (usually in the spotlight b/c he craves attention) and the kids and I second. I'd managed to push those times deep down. It is good to know that those days are behind me.
I'm headed to bed now! Have a baseball game at 8 AM!!! Who does that????
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
I am ok tonight. I picked up my divorce petition to review and sign. I thought it would really hit me when I saw my name vs. "crazy", but it really didn't upset me. I was able to look it over and the agreement of who pays what until the house sells (actually it is all what he pays )
I went to dinner w/my sister and BIL and we talked quite a bit about my marriage. I can really see things from a different perspective now. My marriage wasn't bad exactly. It just wasn't about "us". It was about "him" always. We talked about some things that happened where it was so obvious the H put himself first (usually in the spotlight b/c he craves attention) and the kids and I second. I'd managed to push those times deep down. It is good to know that those days are behind me.
I'm headed to bed now! Have a baseball game at 8 AM!!! Who does that????
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
I am ok tonight. I picked up my divorce petition to review and sign. I thought it would really hit me when I saw my name vs. "crazy", but it really didn't upset me. I was able to look it over and the agreement of who pays what until the house sells (actually it is all what he pays )
I went to dinner w/my sister and BIL and we talked quite a bit about my marriage. I can really see things from a different perspective now. My marriage wasn't bad exactly. It just wasn't about "us". It was about "him" always. We talked about some things that happened where it was so obvious the H put himself first (usually in the spotlight b/c he craves attention) and the kids and I second. I'd managed to push those times deep down. It is good to know that those days are behind me.
I'm headed to bed now! Have a baseball game at 8 AM!!! Who does that????
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
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