Where does he sleep?

[mkultra]

This may not be DBing but I asked my H what his plans were for the house this week as I am on vacation. I told him that both neighbours would check in with the lights and mail and have the keys. I told him he could check in but it was not necessary. THE non DBing part begins here: I said I did not know how I felt about him being in the home. It was weird because he betrayed me and I don't trust him. I don't want him bringing his girlfriend here. He said he would never disrespect me like that. I shot back that having an affair when you are still married is disrespectful and is he really calling her his "girlfriend" because that is more serious than just going on dates with someone new. Downward spiral began there. So basically he relayed that he does not plan to live with her, it is not serious, they just started dating a few weeks ago, he cares about her, he said he does not love her, then he corrected himself and said I don't know. That was the sword through my heart. I asked what do her parents think? Has he met her parents? What can they think of a daughter who dates a much older married man with small children. More spiral. DB out the window. He said her dad died when she was 16 and her mom has problems. so I said she has "Daddy Issues" When was she born? In the 80's? Are you sleeping with her? How can you not see this as cheating? Blah, blah, blah. I stopped and made dinner and acted like it never happened. he must think I am crazy. His apathy is the worst thing. it is way beyond anger. It is like he has no soul when he is in my presence. i do not inspire any ounce of kindness or empathy. I am just a reminder of his guilt and loss. gets worse.