There are many sitch's like yours on here where you don't have to see each other b/c of kids, etc.
That's why it's so important to contain your panic & manage your emotions when you do talk or see ea other.
I can only say that this is sometimes painful difficult & takes a lot of practice & will power.
The cost of not using DB skills is huge though.
Post on this board & create some support for you to use when the going gets tough, b/c it will go up & down. Don't worry that you won't have just the right thing to say, it's how we all learn.
You will notice a difference when you pull back, is my guess. Even if you don't see ea other, by not returning phone calls right away, maybe even for a few days, & then calling back w/ a big PMA will show some change. She'll notice the difference.
((((Svejk))))