I did blast him and it only made him put on his track shoes
I firmly believe..that when i figured out to shut the f'ck up and be still....is when he started to turn around. I removed the raging bitch from the picture ...he could no longer blame me for his misery. Of course OW took my place as the raging bitch...that helped. I made it safe for him to approach me. I made it safe for him to ask to come home. to do that i had let the anger go and offered total forgiveness actually i had forgiven him before he ever asked to come back.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest