Here are a few things to remember (that I think apply to you), that I got from Dr. Phil:
# Take responsibility. You have played a role in setting up the relationship this way, and you must play a role in changing it. Telling your partner that the treatment is unacceptable is not enough. Your actions speak louder than words, so you need to make two bold moves: Change your own routine or behavior, and tell your partner you will no longer take the abuse.
# Dr. Phil refers to a saying: "There are no victims, only volunteers." Don't go along to get along. Peace at any price is no peace at all.
# Research shows that kids who grow up in an emotionally barren, abusive environment don't do as well as kids who grow up with one well-adjusted, single parent.
Think about how much this applies to you, and what the implications are for your children, if you decide to remain in this abusive R. If your H won't go to counselling, I sure hope you do, to help you see the reality of your sitch, and what you can do to change it. Sometimes, we need an objective person to help us get through this sort of thing. Probably why we come to forums such as this.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
