Here is what I did propose for the money at one time. Sit down with all your fixed expenses, the mortgage and the taxes being a big one and see if he would agree to pay at least part of of it. I tried to get H to take his rent, 560 ( an effiency in a expensive part of downtown no less, but cheap for here) and our mortgage 800.00 no taxes and insurance on that and add them together and then divide. This gave me more money. He didn't go for it this time! I have things like the water softener rental, 300 a month in property tax, home insurance, lawnmower gas, utilties are high, ( I hope I can have heat this winter he budgeted so little) I also just realized he pays almost a 100 a month to park his car downtown and that is in his side of the equation as he leaves his car in the secure park at office and walks to apt. That comes off his check before he divides his pay! Yikes! List everything you can think of. He budgeted 100 a week for food, 50 a month for cocker spaniel food, no internet and no Direct tv, but figured I could make it up somewhere. Auto gas at 75.00 a month ( he used the 04 budget for that) List everything and see if you can come to an agreement. Keep track of anything you pay for the house like insurance etc. I'm listing some of this so you can get some ideas. He does own half that house. Although you have no intention of D, tell him that you think that he should be contributing something as he will get part of the proceeds. This is the one time I was a bit needy for lack of a better term. He may not have a good idea of what the expenses are if you are like me and you took care of it. Mine completely forgot about the property taxes due end of July this year. Believe me they are not thinking straight. Try and come to an agreement about money that is fair and sell it by saying you don't want to know where he is spending his money, just not fair that you were in a partnership and you are keeping his asset the house safe and struggling. Be a tiny bit needy.

My H has always been so responsible with money and let me tell you what he did with a plasma tv. Three weeks before he moves out our Sony 12 year old tv goes. He does all the research, orders on line a new plasma 42 in tv, 1500.00. All happy with that. Like a few people tell me, what guy buys a dream guy tv and then gets mad and moves out. He was not getting divorced then. I told him not to take tv as I would have a tiny not so great tv. Like you! I took 1500.00 out of our account when he moves as I have little money and that is what is to pay off tv on cc. He is furious. I stole that money, blah, blah. What does he do? He comes over here one day about 2 weeks after he moves out and mumbles something about he is buying himself a tv because that one he has is not so good. I think fine, a 300 tv in his tiny place. NO, I check our cc a few days later and find out he bought the same tv on line and paid 1899.00. I almost passed out while on line with ccompany. That is how I found his address. I logged on Amazon which the credit c company said he ordered it, logged into our acct and there was his address with the bill. I was furious. He is lucky I did not cancel the order as I could have, or had it sent here. So, add, 1500 cash I took, 1500 for first plazma, and 1900.00 for his.... I told him you could have had the one in the house and bought me something at Sams for less. I just need something to watch. I could care less and I can't afford HD anyhow. My wise friend said, the first tv didn't make him happy, this one will not either! This is a guy who is so conservative! He told me that when we divorce he will take that tv out of his half. Good I said! SO he is paying for his tv, half mine and I took his 1500.00! That was an expensive tv.

Wah are not thinking. Believe me. I meant to say go with your heart before. I also think it is good to be a bit mysterious as they call it on here. Even though I am doing close to nothing but work out and go over to girlfriends once in awhile I lead him to believe I am busy. I say things like I can't email you till later as I have plans for tonight. Or I just got back and got your message. Stuff like that. I try to upbeat. I have been crazy and had a meltdown with the dsl on the phone to him. Good your mom is supportive. I made the mistake in my rounds with H to tell my mom too much. She always thought he was Mr. Wonderful and now really doesn't care at all for him. She says things like, well its your life! Not that you should not tell her, just don't let her hate him for you. After all we are their daughters! Hang in there. You are doing great, held your anger in and called later, good move. Anger is our enemy, they want to not like us. We want them to miss us! I vented. Look forward to posts. We should email! Think about that...