Hmmmm...I wonder if him getting a puppy has anything to do with you getting one? Maybe he feels it would help your D7 come over HIS house.
Let's say a little toast to their new puppy, shall we???
May their dog have worms and puke in their bed. May their dog eat everything in sight, like her shoes and furniture. May their dog give them a hard time housebreaking and stain all their carpets! May their dog bite him...well you no where! CHEERS TO THEIR NEW PUPPY!
May their dog have worms and puke in their bed. May their dog eat everything in sight, like her shoes and furniture. May their dog give them a hard time housebreaking and stain all their carpets! May their dog bite him...well you no where! CHEERS TO THEIR NEW PUPPY!
Are you ready to hear something crazy?
Like Lissie lost it, crazy?
Puffy and Susan have a dog. I hope that dog brings Puffy some joy. I hope that this new R he is in. Gives him what i could not give him
The anger, was holding me back.
the hatred for her was holding me back, i was not able to breathe, I was not able to move forward.
I mean Susan, is not my friend, but let's just say that Puffy and her work out. I have to be in the right frame of mind with this person.
She will know my children, She will HAVE to know how I parent.
I will be the best, I will be the bigger person.
CRAZY I know, b/c I would of ran her over with my car, and left her there to bleed, before, I started really praying.
Pilar left me with wise words, that I remember till this day.
I didn't forgive at all before, I now forgive, slowly.
It still takes me some time, but I understand better.
Once you guys, see that this was not done TO you, it is something that is out of your control.
You will be set free, a little more everyday
Live Simply Love Generously Care Deeply Speak Kindly Leave the rest to God
I thought of that too! H's way of getting d7 to want to come to visit with him again. He knows how much d like's puppies. I really don't think anything right now is going to work.
We are stopping by stepson's house tomorrow to drop off his birthday gift since d7 didn't go to his party last Sunday. D7 called him today and he said he would plan to be home. I had asked H to stop with stepson last Sunday on his way to take him home, but of course he didn't. So I guess I have to be the one to get his gift to him. H isn't going to help.
You are right that our H's R with Ow's could work out(at least for the time being) and if it does then we need to be the bigger person(s). THis Ow will be around our children and WE NEED to show strength and inner peace with ourselves. Letting the anger go. We need to be in control and in charge of our lives.
This is taking the high road. Let Ow and our H's continue to travel down the "Never-Never Land" freeway, while we are giving our kids the stability and love they need
As I said before until they face their demons they will not be happy. Our H's will have problems with Ow too. The grass is not greeener. They just need to take off their very dark sunglasses......
H is back on the kick of making d go with him for his visits.
The C told him today that if he and I talked and both decided we were ready to take this step then we should b/c no matter when it happens it will be traumatic for all of us.
So tonight I allowed H to take d kicking and screaming to the playground. I felt horrible, but felt it needed to be done so I supported H with his decision.
He now wants to take her for the weekend. I told him we needed to talk about it face to face. He said No-- we can talk ,but on the phone. I told H that I couldn't talk to him on the phone about it b/c d would hear me talking. It needed to be in person so we could be alone. I haven't heard back from him. I dont think he is going to agree to meet with me to discuss it. He's such a coward. Still can't face me and talk about anything...
I told him that we needed to be adults and communicate with one another about d. I told him that he didn't have to like me or love me anymore, but that I deserved to be respected b/c I am the mother of his child.
We will see if he heard a word I said.... I told him I wanted to talk to him before the weekend.
She did okay according to H. He said she acted fine after about 5 or 10 min.
we had a talk this morning on the phone about it. H is planning to pick d up at 2:00 tomorrow afternoon for the weekend. I know she is going to throw another fit, but I am going to go along with it and support him. Only b/c she was fine yesterday after her major meltdown, but I did tell H that I didn't want him to make her sleep over if she was upset. I'm not sure if he what he will do though. Once she is with him he told me he doesn't want to give in to her.
I hate all of this. He seems so fine about all of this. So confident with his new life and his decision to start over. I can tell when he talks to me that he has no respect for me as a parent. He makes his little remarks during our conversation and also says things to his family a lot that gets back to me.
What about him? What kind of parent is he? He teaches the kids that you should quit with your M, cheat on your partner, lie about things, live with another woman while still legally M, start your life over before you have even gotten a D, manipulate your own children into believing they shouldn't have a R with their own stepsiblings???
What about all of that??? I plan to talk to him about this sometime very soon. I never denied that I should be more firm with my kids and not be so "wish washy" when it comes to disipline, but what about teaching our kids morals and integrity? What about the pressure he is putting on d7 in regards to how her siblings all feel about our family breaking up? Our kids didn't have a choice in the matter at all, they were just told one day that our family was no more and they were to just accept it. They have feelings too and they should be recoginized.
I am so sick of him pointing the finger at me all the time.
When I do talk with him I plan to remain strong and calm. I will not raise my voice. I will not take the bait. But I feel it needs to be said.
K, talk to your H about immediate concerns with your d.....morals, integrity...why bother? its like trying to put out a fire with gasoline. Only gonna stir things up and further give him validation for what hes done. Morals got left at the border to never never land, along with integrity and a few other things.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I know that is true, but what if he never realizes what an absolute jerk he has been? and continues to be????
He is the one who lacks the ability to be a good parent? He is Disney dad and sweeps in every once in a while putting his 2 cents in and thinks he this makes him a good dad. In the meantime I am the one here on a DAILY basis being a mom to OUR d7. Dealing with all the CRAP! It's so frustrating... Crap HE created because he LEFT!! Our d wouldn't be having these insecurity issues if he wouldn't have left.... I would bet my last dollar on that!!!
Didn't you ever blast your H sometimes when he was gone? Do you think it did any good? If not, then what did you do that finally made him wakeup?
