Well, I did call him. I called last night and he didn't call back...which was probably better because I was mad. He did call me back at lunch today, which by that time I had calmed down. I told him that I was mad last night, but I was kinda over it today...so no fighting. I just basically told him that I wouldn NOT take money out of savings to fund his eating out/drinking. I also said that it wasn't fair for him to be able to go out and do what he wants while I sit at home feeling like I can't spend a dime. I didn't say it in a mean or demanding way. He said that he was sorry, his excuse was that he had been on standby for work and just gotten of and he got a "wild hair". FYI: While they are on standby (on call), there is no drinking and H never liked to go out and do anything because he didn't want to be doing something and get interrupted with a call. He did say he wouldn't do that anymore..so I guess I'll give him another chance.
Everyone keeps telling me to split up the checking account, but if I do that it just makes it easier for him and harder for me. Even if we split the bills right down the middle (which I don't think he would agree to since he now has his own sep bills) it would be easier for him because he makes more money than me. Although I know he would still be scrounging because he is not good with money. The funny thing is we have NEVER fought about money. He has just always let me handle it and it has always been ok.
It will definitely be easier not to call when I am home. There I have so many friends and family that I will be busy most of the time. My mom has been really understanding through all of this. She is the only person (besides the people here and my T) that has not told me just to leave him or divorce him. She understands that I want him to come back and would understand me accepting him back. I am ignoring the other comments from other people.
Sorry to hear about your hair situation Terey, but at least it is fixed. I hate that. I don't do anything to my own hair because I know I will mess it up. It really sounds like your H is stalling. What is Pro Se divorce? I don't know anything about the actual process or the costs, all I know is that in TX there is a 60 day waiting period...I am guessing after it is filed? Sounds to me like you H is not "ready to proceed". Try just not bringing up the D, although that is probably hard. It is hard for me and H to talk about anything BUT this right now.
I am actually not leaving until next Wednesday, so I'll be updating until then. I am not sure if I will have access to a computer there but if I do, I will get on here. I will delete my history on the computer so he can't see. I don't want to lock it because that might make him mad...since he is helping with the internet bill right now.
