An interesting development - I never thought it was possible...
H admitted that my moving out was a wake-up call to him and that he's starting to finally understand what I've been unhappy about all these years. And that it had to be something as drastic as my packing up and leaving; nothing less dramatic would have had an impact.
We talked a bit about our issues and it really does feel like there's a bit of movement going on in his thinking. I know, it's only been a month, and we both understand we both still have a lot of healing and growing to do. Time will tell.
I have a tiny sliver of hope now. Has he actually changed? Not yet. But it's such a huge step for him to even start to understand where I've been coming from that I can't help but get excited and cautiously hopeful.
Bottom line: I'm really glad I haven't completely given up on him or our M. Thanks to all of you who offered me support and advice (especially the guys who gave me a male's perspective, i.e., that a lot of guys actually do need a reeeeally thick brick to the head).
I'm not leaping to conclusions, or making assumptions, or avoiding reality. I'm still working on me and GAL. I've just noticed a ray of light, which I never expected to see. And I plan to keep watching it. And when appropriate, adding to it.
