H has a big problem with my relationship with his mom..
To bad for him....
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Okay...no settling...I'm going to find me a nice guy this time.
So we agree on no settling....But, I have to disagree with you about finding "a nice guy". That I believe would be settling. Find yourself a "Great guy". Then and only then you will have not settled. Do not settle for second best..go get yourself a great guy. What Great guy wouldn't want to have Hope in his life?
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Hopefully, if I get into a healthy relationship, I will see what it is like to not give and give and give and really get nothing in return.
Not if, but when I get into a healthy.........
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That sure sounds like a horrible way to live when it's written in black and white...but I'm afraid that is the way that I have lived for my entire adult life. Maybe I'm starting to see a reason all this happened?
I guess this is part of us accepting our M for what it is. In the book "not just friends" the author talked a lot about one spouse giving a lot more to the M while the other gave minimally. She always followed it up saying that to truly reconcile and have a healthy M/R that both spouses need to contribute equally. Now you know if it was to ever workout with your H then there would be a whole lot of change that he would have to be willing to do..
Have fun in Chicago this weekend. Other then Sunday morning it is supposed to be nice here. BTW, Lollapalooza(no idea how to spell it) is going on this weekend in Grant Park. It might be a little crazy......I guess we are used to crazy....never mind. Have a great weekend.
