I think I am in Over My Head...

[SallyM]

(((HUGS)))

sometimes C doesn't make you feel better because its hard. do you see progress at all? do you think this person can help you make progress? make sure you are really looking at it and not making your C the whipping boy for your problems. really look at it, give it a chance, and if you continue to feel like you are working but the C isn't a good fit, then maybe consider moving on.

I wish I had the answers...so many of what you posted is what is going on in my life. H actually has told me that he continues to talk to OW because he has noone else. which is laughable, because he could have someone else to talk to, he just needs to reach out to someone else. but the truth is he doesn't want to. and I don't want to accept that truth most days. most days I want to believe that ths A will run its course, and he'll realize what he is losing, and he'll come back to me and we'll have something even better than before. but as time goes on, even I am starting to understand how unrealistic that is.

I'm also dealing with the same thing...a lot of what I have changed has been for me, but also, so much of what I am doing, especially the DB stuff, is to try to save my marriage. moving on, gal, all of that, is in hopes that things will eventually work out. what I realized a week or so ago was that I need to really do it, not sort of do it. and keeping the marriage in mind is undermining me in a way. I need to really focus on me...to let him go. and maybe that glimmer will grow, but it can't be the focus.

does any of this make sense? I don't think I'm explaining myself very well. just know I understand, I could have written your post in a lot of ways.

have a good trip...take your journal, write in it every day, and try to make a good chunk of it just about you, not about him.

good luck!