BD,

I think you will be fine. I think it was good to get that out in the open. Just don't do it every week!

Originally Posted By: Heimlich
It's almost like she's had to push be away so that she could be independent, even though I've never held or close or prevented her from doing a damn thing that she likes to do.


I think this is just a symtom of an MLC. I could be wrong. I know they want to blame us for everthing. I know my W tried to push me away before all of this went down. (I think she was hoping I would be so miserable and want to leave) She told me this! I asked her the other day how she thought I would feel when she told me she wanted out. She told me that she thought I would be happy. I guess I showed her. \:\) I believe that your W still loves you but is afraid or unsure. I don't think they want to lead us on or give us false hope. Or maybe they are just done....I don't know....It is so hard to rationalize their thinking!

I have accepted what will probably be. I think when you do, you really detach. I think she will really notice then. I am just taking it one day at a time. If her feelings change, then maybe we can see what feelings I have left. I don't know what the future holds. Sometimes I think and they may think also, that it would just be easier to let go then try to bring back feelings that they don't feel. It is too much like work and I guess like they have said they shouldn't have to work to have feelings.

I think when you accept and don't try and reason the why or what's you two will become more comfortable around each other. More like friends and then see what happens from there.

All right I have rambled enough. I'll check in when I get back from the beach.

Matt