Well, I bought shoes, jeans and shirts....What???? I want to look DAMN good and show off my new sizes
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From the first month he left, my H wanted to just pay the mortgage. I said "No, you can pay me XXXX in child support, which is what would be required in this state if we were D." It was about the same amount of money, but the point is that I wanted him to know what it would be like later. I wanted control over what I spent the money on and I wanted to know when things were paid. Also, if I pay the mortgage I can claim it on my taxes and he cannot. My L did say that I could legally ask for more money before we are D, but I did want to do it. I am trying to keep my eye on the big prize of getting him to give the house equity to the children for college funds. (So far, he has agreed!)
I think this sounds like a good idea. I can use the support to pay the mortgage payments.
You know what hurts the most? He was almost implying that I was trying to take him out. I want to tell him that if that's what I wanted, I would do it. I feel like I've been generous and kind to him throughout this and he is being just a jacka**.
I just cannot deal w/his craziness anymore.
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
The papers should be ready today and filed. Not sure what it is I'm feeling, but my C thinks I am very much ready for this and have gone through the roughest time in dealing w/the pain etc.
I hope so. Now I feel calm.
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
Just got back from a short trip w/kids, sister and mom. Went to visit mom's hometowns. We had a good time.
Tomorrow is the day we tell the kiddos. I'm nervous at how they will take it, but pretty sure they have a good idea. I have talked to all 3 of them the past 1 1/2 weeks off and on answering divorce questions. "Will you get remarried if you and daddy divorce?" "Will we get to see you as much?" etc etc.
I hate this for them. All I know is he is sinking more everyday and I need to save my kids and myself.
I hope with the finalization in October, more peace will come. I know it is going to be very hard. But, I feel like there is an end in sight for the "what ifs" in all of this.
Hope all is well tonight!
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
Hey BamBam- Sounds like you had a much needed getaway. Good for you. I was wondering where you disappeared to.
Good luck tomorrow with the kids. I feel for what you are going through but it sounds like your kids are sensing that something is up. Hopefully it won't be a hugh shock for them. Your strength will be a necessity to help you through this. How I wish you and your kids didn't have to go through this. It truly isn't fair.
I know it is going to be hard telling the kids, it is never easy. From the strength in your posts, I have no doubt that with time you -n- the kids are going to be fabulouly OK! We struggle with the "am I doing the right thing" so much that we often second guess ourselves into a stupor! Bleh! There are so many "what if's" in our sitch's that it invades our sleep, our work our lives...
We know we will be better without the constant drama in our lives, I can't imagine having 1 complete day go by without thinking about it. What would that be like??? I know your sorrow over this, but take it 1 day at a time, but visualize the future!
{{{hugs}}} to you and the kiddies. Your going to be ok.
Jeanette
ps.....wheres IMP?????
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Yes, it's hard, yes it will get harder......yes, you will find peace again.