Ok..my gut kept telling me that I should talk to the kids before H and I sat down with them. Their relationship w/him right now is so rocky and they just don't feel comfortable around him...maybe b/c he is an alien...not sure.
Anyway, I fought it until last night. I sat them all down and we talked and they asked if we were going to get a D and I told them yes. I felt sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo guilty doing it w/o H especially b/c I think he should have done it and seen their reactions. BUT, I feel like it would have been worse for the kids b/c he would have been angry w/them for reacting the way they did. D8 sobbed and asked lots of questions. One twin was PISSED and wouldn't speak to me. The other was very very quiet. We talked for a few hours and things were fine. I explained why I told them w/o H and that I didn't want them to tell him that we had already had this talk before (eeeeekkkkkk). They understood b/c they wanted to be w/me all night and tonight they are going w/him overnight.
Ok...so S11 (12 this month) went downstairs and came back up w/a note and told me to read it alone. It said that he thinks H is having an affair b/c there is a bottle in cabinet above his bed w/condoms and that there are some missing and they found tampon wrappers in his trash can.
I told him that I was sorry he had to find all of that. He asked if it was true. I said "I don't know." I didn't know what to say to him. I am just soooooooooooooooooooo angry right now b/c this should never have happened to my innocent child! I am going to show H the letter today and I'm gonna have to have some choice words for him as far as what he is exposing our kids to!
Any suggestions?
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
