"you got the wrong one", it was my wife's voice in my head. I was afraid that I was going to get the wrong one, actually thats not true I knew that I was going to get the wrong one. I'm sure that some people can relate to that feeling and maybe even the other voice in your head.
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I know it's not the same kind of thing but I do really believe in work of Dr.GLover as being really on the mark but he does warn that some relationships will be sent to an overdue grave.
Yup, but then within 24 hours you will rise from the grave and be dancing a jig with wonderful spirit. Of course, you will still have to work on your tendency towards being "too nice" in future relationships. Like, if the guy you are sleeping with doesn't keep coffee in his house you might have to kick his *ss out of bed to get you some in the morning - lol .
You know Dickens really covered this whole issue quite well in Great Expectations when he created the character of the soft-hearted big guy with the shrewish wife he couldn't control because his own mother had been abused by his father. So, I guess Dickens would have been in Cobra's camp on the FOO issues. Pretty clear in my case that I felt like my mother abused my father so I wanted to be "nicer" than her. I clearly remember having the thought early on in my marriage "I will be a better wife than my mother" as I did things like cook a nice meal. Anyway, I was thinking that it's kind of weird that after so many years together here in virtual therapy land, I have no clue what HairDog's relationship with his mother was like. Maybe that info came down during one of my "vacations" from the BB?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
