Surviving an Affair

[mkultra]

According to the book he will have to bend over backwards to prove his trustworthiness. These mistakes do happen to good people sometimes. I judged my H as if he and the OW were extremely immoral people on drugs, but sometimes people just do not understand the consequences and pain. I do not know if we can be sure if some spouses are chronic cheaters or emotional cheaters. I do not know, but he sounds remorseful and that is a start. Stay focused on saving your marriage. Be prepared to deal with each trigger. This may sound silly, but math is a negative trigger for me. I think about the OW's age and the difference between their ages and what I was doing with my H when the OW was born and etc. I also think about every holiday we spent together and if she felt left out or victorious that he was just pretending to be my H for show but that his heart was with her. How do I combat these thoughts? Music and television and friends who listen but also joke. And above all, this forum. You are safe here and you know you are not alone.