Hiemlich, I may be alone on this, but I think the conversation could be a good one. You laid your cards on the table and said many things I have not told my wife in the 9 months of this process. I actually am thinking of attempting a conversation such as this. Now, that being said, you need to stop with this type of conversation. Keep your focus right where you say it is going to be. I can tell you from experience that if she does let down her guard a little and is checking out the new you, don't overdue it. I think it is very insightful that she told you some of these things are pressuring her, keep doing them sporatically, but back off a bit. Give her these 180's in moderation, but be consistant. Too much for sure is pressure, but you said this is the person you want to become. Be kind and pleasant, but back off a little. I think you are on the right track, and glad you are getting detached, but it is easy to fall back in when at the high of the rollercoaster.
